softpeachlesbian:

a lesson for people who aren’t autistic: you will never “desensitize” an autistic person who doesn’t want to be hugged or touched. it will never happen. you do not hold that power. forcing yourself on someone like that is cruel and can create long-lasting emotional issues/anxiety for that person. stop causing autistic people emotional anguish under the guise of love and caring for them. there’s nothing wrong with them. when you force that on them and tell them you’re doing it to “desensitize” them, you’re making them feel like a freak and further ostracizing them from people they trust. just let them be without making them feel guilty and upset for the way their brain processes things. what if someone came up to you, put their hands all over your face and eyes and mouth and wouldn’t remove them, just to say they were doing it for the sake of “desensitizing you.” you would fucking push them off and tell them to stop. the only difference between that and what you’re doing to autistic people is the boundary of comfort that exists in you versus them. you don’t love some one or care about their wellbeing or personal growth if you repeatedly violate their trust and personal space. when you’re doing those things, you’re being a bad person. so, if you do those things, stop and reevaluate your morals. and if you know someone who does those things stop them and tell them to reevaluate their morals.