STOP TELLING PEOPLE WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER THEY ARE MANIPULATIVE WHEN THEY AREN’T
STOP TELLING PEOPLE WITH ABANDONMENT ISSUES TO JUST TRUST YOU
STOP TELLING PEOPLE WITH POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER TO JUST LET GO OF THE PAST
STOP TELLING PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES THAT THEY “DON’T LOOK DISABLED” BECAUSE THEY’RE SEEMINGLY PHYSICALLY OKAY
STOP TREATING ANXIETY AS IF IT IS SIMPLY NERVOUSNESS/SHYNESS
STOP DEMONIZING PEOPLE WITH PSYCHOSIS
STOP VICTIM BLAMING PEOPLE TRAUMATIZED BY ABUSE THEY COULDN’T ESCAPE OR CONTROL
STOP TELLING PEOPLE WHO ARE ISOLATING THEMSELVES AS HEALTHY A COPING MECHANISM (WHO WOULD OTHERWISE END UP HURTING THEMSELVES OR OTHERS OR BREAKING DOWN IN PUBLIC) THAT THEIR COPING MECHANISM ISN’T HELPFUL
THE LACK OF RESPECT THAT ILL PEOPLE RECEIVE ON TOP OF ALL THE SHIT THAT COMES WITH HAVING AN ILLNESS IS ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS
RESPECT PEOPLE WHO ARE ILL
LEARN TO SUPPORT THEM
BE A GOOD FRIEND AND STOP BELITTLING THEIR STRUGGLES
This is the most pro-enabling post I’ve ever read about mental illness.
I’ve got a better idea for you: encourage your friends to be well. Self care is not self indulgence. A little self indulgence is absolutely necessary, but otherwise it’s important to let your friends know when their coping mechanisms are hurting them.
People with BPD aren’t manipulative? They are, but not intentionally and definitely not maliciously. Use gentle language to address problematic behavior such as this.
Don’t belittle the struggle but don’t also minimize it by allowing self destructive coping mechanisms to hurt your friends. You deserve respect, but you also deserve prolonged wellness.
Penhales 